/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Do you have any "traditional" life goals? As in, getting married, starting a family, white picket fence… Ecterea. Not necessarily in the context of being a woman, just achieving the expected milestones of adulthood.

I sometimes want children, but I can't imagine myself in a long-term relationship, and I'm also not in the position to be raising kids for mental health reasons that can not be helped. Sometimes I wonder what the point of living is without a prime objective and if fruitless repetition until death is worth it, or something emo like that. It's just hard going on knowing there's nothing for me in the end.

i am having long thoughts very early in the morning and i thought of making a thread specifically for storing random questions people form in their heads.

i guess the point of me making this is just to archive any questions people generate throughout the day. not even to discuss or answer them even, but just to ask the questions themselves.

here are questions i thought of today:
> why do people lose their innocence as they get older? does this always have to happen?
> what does it mean when people say that countries are becoming less democratic?
> why are men and women so different?
> do people really have to finish a college education in order to live a fulfilling life?
> why can't all of our education system take place online?
> are humans becoming less happy over time?
> do all civilizations really have to come to an end eventually? can we prevent this?

anyways, feel free to add your own questions.

and I am grateful, for all you nonas. You all make me feel less alone in life. Though we are separated by computer screens, our words flow through connecting us all. Let’s have a good week together, and look towards the future. Our numbers may be small but we know we are not alone in our experiences.

not sure if I should post this here or in hb, but does anyone else suffer from trichotillomania? if so,
>when did you start?
>why did you start?
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
>have you ever had bald spots?
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?

post about something positive that happened to you, even if it’s small

I’m 24. Working a dead-end job but I support myself okay for now. I’ve got my own car and a cat I love and I sporadically make lots of art (that I don’t share really). Im slowly taking steps to go back to college but I feel like I’m so late in getting a career and set up in life and stuff.
Writing it all out there it doesn’t sound so bad, but I spend a lot of my time doing nothing - or at least playing videogames, reading or writing, and watching movies. I feel like if I spent all my time working on bettering myself and my skills I’d be so much farther ahead in life right now… but at the end of the day I’m always tired and feel on the edge of burning out. I don’t have a lot of money and there are things I want to do and projects I want to start but I just can’t yet. I don’t have a relationship or any one skill I can show off and be confident in. And I don’t feel like I’m allowed to be proud of my life when I see a lot of my friends starting their careers and getting settled down. Any other nonas who feel like they’re always behind? I know it’s probably not just me but gosh I get so discouraged about it

>"what time do you get off work?"
>"around 10 pm"
>"you should call me as soon as you get off work so we can hang out. make sure to do it immediately beacuse I need to go to bed early"
>"okay"

or alternatively
>"sorry I dont have the energy to hang out right now"
>"you never do. Why do you never wanna hang out with me anymore? Are we even still friends?"
Does anyone else work closing shifts and your friends wanna talk as soon as you get off work beacuse they work 9-5 and go to bed early and beacuse you're the one with "abnormal" schedule? All I want is an hour or 2 to be by myself when I get off of work to just be by myself and chill. Am I really asking too much? Is that so selfish? I know I'm lucky to have friends at all, but after an 8 hour shift I just want some time to myself. I'm exhausted. But I keep losing friends this way all the same.

In my sophomore year of college, I would sit at my desk for more than 12 hours a day doing school work. I would get 4-6 hours of sleep and did not have any hobbies or friends. I would also pull at least 1-2 all-nighters every week. As a result, I produced a lot of great work and was directly competing with my peers.

Now that I'm a junior, I can't give a flying fucckkkk about school. I can barely sit in my chair for more than a couple hours and I regularly get eight hours of sleep. All I do in class is day dream about my girlfriend. I work out for several hours a day, spend a lot of my time going outside, and hanging out with friends or my girlfriend. My grades are now shit and I've produced some of the worst shit imaginable for my classes. I couldn't even bother to go hunting for an internship this year.
My friends admire me because they still think that I have the same work ethic that I did last year. But I don't.
I am so ashamed for wasting my time to do all these stupid things like sleeping and working out. But at the same time, I can't bring myself to do homework all fucking day. I just can't. I can't even pull all-nighters anymore.

I am so burnt out. I miss the old me. I want to bring them back, but I don't want to sacrifice the relationships that I have now.

How do I get over this burnout? How do I start feeling the want to do school work for that fucking long again?

>tldr version: I used to do schoolwork nonstop last year but I can't bring myself to do it anymore. I wan't to go back to the person I was back then,but I don't wan't to lose the people I love.

I don't think I want to die, I kind of just think I wanna sleep forever. I don't know. I used to be stable and sane and that has gone out the window.

Is there a way to put myself into a coma? I'm too scared to die and if I kms, there are people who will follow me.