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A guy wants to be friends but idk what to do Anonymous 113305[Reply]

I'm currently a sophomore in college, and I met this guy who's really nice, but part of me thinks that he really just wants to have sex with me. I don't have any proof PR good reason to suspect that, I just do. The thing is, he's bisexual and currently dating a guy, but I know he's dated girls in the past, and I talked to a girl that he used to date who went on about how nice he was and how he never tried to make her have sex with him or anything weird. But I'm still torn, because in high school a guy claiming to be gay grabbed me and fingered me on multiple occasions, and of course no one believed me because he said he was gay, and I really don't want to be in that kind of situation again… what do y'all think I should do? He seems nice, but he's like 6'5 and I'm 5'3, so he could easily r4p3 me if he wanted to, and after my high school experience, I'm just not sure what to do.

Anonymous 113308

And I forgot to add, he's really into hentai.



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Vent thread Anonymous 112803[Reply]

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Anonymous 113276

>>113272
and your literally alone so what’s your point?
Either be taken advantage of or be alone?

Anonymous 113277

>>113276
Learn to be alone with dignity, and your relationships with men will stop being this one sided. You're starting off in a place of desperation and that's just not a good place to be meeting new people.

Anonymous 113287

>>113263
Kinda agree with other nona but only for my specific case.

Had some pent up pick me-ish tendencies when i was 14 and perpetually on chan. I was an emotionally retarded 14 year old and thought i was unpopular because the other girls centered their existence around moids and i centered my life around academics. Well, i was only above average and too insecure to entertain moid thoughts. But ego does as ego is, and naturally everyone would dabble in a but of cognitive dissonance to avoid admitting that they’re a freak/doing something wrong.

Tell you what though, being on fourchan with an unstable sense of identity can fuck you up for some time. Thankfully im arrogant enough to only stomach some forms of self hate but not the racial ones. The amount of self hating brown imageboard users is quite tragic lmao.

Anonymous 113299

>>113276
if you'd rather let moids use you that's your choice. just don't seek sympathy here when you end up hurt because a lot of us are making the active choice not to be part of the modern dating scene.

Anonymous 113307

>>113287
at least you get it. i can say that i do have some self loathing but i never really had racial self hatred despite all of the racist trash that's posted there. i always laugh when i see some /pol/tard and then it turns out he's like latino or something lmao. i can see why 4chan can mess someone up if they have an unstable sense of identity though. you're based for not letting some of it get to you and there definitely is a whole thing with nonwhite imageboard users being self hating and deprecating and it's so sad to see



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moid hate thread Anonymous 85163[Reply]

doesn’t have to be about your boyfriend. I just hate fucking men at this point.

>everyone of them has failed me

>any moid I’ve dated either had a rape kink, or raped me
>porn/hentai addiction
>used me for my body
>always had an alternative motive
>manipulated me into insanity
>abused me if I didn’t do anything they wanted
>even my own dad has failed me

I have no fucking hope in this world.
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Anonymous 113218

>>113211
Having an intelligent species with sexual dimorphism is definitely sufficient proof that if any deity exists it is evil.

Anonymous 113226

>>112965
>almost fails you because he disagrees politically
I had a similar experience once. Moid professors will always claim to be tolerant of other beliefs, but will flunk you if they disagree.
>English essay writing
>prof tells us not to be scared to step outside the box because he's tired of reading the same stuff over and over
>I do an essay on IVF and sperms banks
>I make mention of the "genius sperms bank" and how every sperms bank is basically like this now
>He gets offended because he thinks I'm defending eugenics
>notes are are focused on areas he disagrees with me personally rather than the writing itself
>he marks off points based on this shit
Always try to select classes with a female prof if you can. Moids are retards who can't handle being wrong and think they know everything

Anonymous 113237

>>113214
I don't agree women are obsessed with romance with men. Women are less likely to wanna live without moids than vice versa

Anonymous 113238

>>113218
And the SD is both sexes identity they both want this masochism and women are the subhuman ones cause they do bdsm piglike acts like sucking men men are just human but human are evil anyway its all biological. I saw a 5'9/ft say that she wants to feel smaller than a moid and like he can snap her in half anytime he wants.

Anonymous 113306

Moids with broccoli hair



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Rejected for being a virgin? Anonymous 113259[Reply]

I am feeling out of place for being a virgin woman. The most recent man I tried/attempted to go on a date with told me mid date that he wanted to stop seeing me (mind you we only had started talking a day or two prior) just because I had no prior sexual experiences. I feel like theres no hope lol, I want a man but men honestly treat me like shit. How do I focus on myself and stop giving a fuck?
And its so odd. All online I see this bullshit rhetoric that its supposed to be easy and im supposedly supposed to have all these options because im a woman, but hardly anyone is ever into me it seems. And the men that ive been bold enough to approach outright reject me or stop fucking with me a day or two in. We don’t even date. And I know that hookups are an option or whatever but I don’t want to participate in the hookup stuff. I feel like wanting just a simple relationship isn’t asking for too much, but maybe it is I don’t know. Its like men don’t even view me as being an option.
Overall have had very weird experiences with men.
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Anonymous 113273

LMAO wtf all these scrotes bitch about the cock carousel and say all women are whores but then turn tail and bolt when they see a virgin.

Jesus fucking christ men are so stupid.

Anonymous 113284

>>113264
Lose and loose are different words with different meanings.

Anonymous 113297

>>113284
My bad, typo

Anonymous 113302

>>113259
In my opinion, virginity is good, and all those moids you encounter are jackasses.

Anonymous 113304

The guys who turn tail when you reveal that you're a virgin are fuckboys who don't want to deal with the additional complications that come with dating a virgin. They just want a casual fuckbuddy. You should be glad they do turn tail instead of leading you on until they cash in your v-card in for their scoreboard, and just ghost you.

What you should do is stop dating fuckboys. Are you picking them up on a dating app or something?



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Anonymous 111523[Reply]

i look like a moid. my body is masculine, my face is ugly, my frame is wild and big. i have no femininity left. my whole high school people thought i was guy despite wearing neutral clothing and having long hair. this is making me suicidal, i look moid but i am woman. when i put feminine clothing i look like crossdresser, i am so repulsive, it is making me suicidal. idk how long i can take this anymore. i am ugly moid like woman no matter what i do. i am not even super tall or have big feet or whatever it is my overall looks. i look like ugly incel. why God did this to me?
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>>111908
something like this, the bangs hide my square hairline and the longer pieces on the side hide some of my face

Anonymous 111947

>>111523
I am sure you are very pretty and there are many ways to dress flattering for your face and figure even if you don’t have the most stereotypically feminine look. There is no normal when it comes to womanhood and you just gotta own it

Anonymous 112482

me too. idk what to do.

Anonymous 113005

you could just lean into it– get shredded, play rugby and be built like a shitbrick house

Anonymous 113303

There are worse things in life than being ugly. Some people have their entire family killed in wars.



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Anonymous 113278[Reply]

I've been friends with this guy for a while, and I like him and I've told him in pretty direct ways but he never turns me down. he also never really gives me the greenlight either. or maybe he has, but I'm too stupid to notice. I guess he's said some things that could come off as vaguely hinting at his interest but since it wasn't direct i don't wanna risk it. he's said stuff about not wanting to date before going off to college, but that he's considering something less serious. he's still scared of the idea of falling in love then having to leave. I don't think I take this all that serious, but the fact that I'm just left to want without any confirmation or denial is driving me crazy.

I think I'm okay with the idea of just dating for a little while, in a way that's not too serious. I feel like even a little bit of his affection would be enough.

Anonymous 113280

I think also this has potential to feed into my love for tragic romance stories:

1. he doesn't want me, while i'm left with no choice but to yearn/move on
2. he wants me, never tells me, and we both want each-other while nothing happens
3. he wants me, we have a sweet summer romance, he moves away and we both hurt over our losses

its horrible, but its still so beautiful to experience pain in such a sweet way.

Anonymous 113294

Hi anon, I had a similar situation begin in 2020. Following my confession, his rejection was also unclear and we had the most ambiguously romantic, emotionally intense, asexual, and confusing relationship I have ever experienced. My feelings for him haunted me for years, I only learned our "break up" was an actual break up this year and upon reuniting I was only tortured more.
What's more I only got to kiss him 4 years after we met, 2 years post-break up. And then he was abruptly out of my life forever.
Not saying it could go exactly like this for you, but please know that messing with ambiguity can be a nightmare. It is romantic in theory and would be a great movie, but it's terrible to live in real life. The unfulfilled feelings will gnaw at you until your insides rot.

Just stay platonic and find someone who wants to and can be with you, nona.

Anonymous 113301

>>113294

we actually talked about it last night, and he told me that he actually did like me, but he's just not sure about dating because the whole falling in love then having to leave thing. i'm going to attempt to listen to you, but i'm pretty sure the moment he lets me im going to fold.



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Unsent letters Anonymous 2119[Reply]

Ever wanted to give someone a piece of your mind but you know you'd just regret it? Post in here and get it off your chest.
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Anonymous 113117

Dear God,

Is the waiting feeling by design? Why do you make my fears toothless and dull, my pain blunt, my tears few? I wish I could understand the world, engage with it, but it seems like you're hell-bent on keeping me sad, confused and regretful of situations I don't understand. Please give me guidance or strength to be good, to live and not just to exist, to be a good woman but most of all to be myself.

Your friend L

Anonymous 113118

Dear God,
Thank you, for guide me thru the darkness, when the whole world abandoned me because i wanted it, and when creepy men around me seized the opportunity to drag me to them. I hear you in the synchronicities that no matter what I need to carry on, because you haven't forsaken me yet. No matter whatever you are, aliens, higher dimensional laws or spirits. Im sorry for simple and stupid words to express my gratitude.

Anonymous 113281

dear A,

i like you. its entirely possible that over time, i might love you. i don't want to. well i do, but…

if you like me, i know you wouldn't want to love me. or, you would. but i know you'd be scared. maybe even angry at yourself.

if you don't like me, can you tell me? i hope that if you like me too much to say no, but are too scared to say yes, that you tell me no instead of leaving me hanging.

above all, i hope you chose me. i hope that you realize that we absolutely can figure something out. that you learn to love letters and aching and distance and possibly 1.5 years.

i hope that you realize it's possible. that you don't have to be so afraid. that you don't have to always have things under control. maybe, that you can let things happen the way they're bound to happen.

with confusion, irritation, and primarily affection,
P

Anonymous 113293

could you leave me alone
this whole "leave dogwhistling posts" is really obnoxious. i dont know you. get a life and leave me alone. please.

Anonymous 113300

thx for remembering me and talking to me when i have no one else ;_;
i just wish we would text a little bit more often, but its fine, you probably have a lot more ppl to talk to i guess



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No lifetime people Anonymous 113228[Reply]

It’s been coming up more that I just have…no one to really talk to. The internet and colleagues are great for directed conversations about specific topics, which is all you need most of the time. But if something good happens or I’m proud, or something bad happens, there’s…nobody. For normal people even if they don’t have friends or a therapist or a fucker they have family. Or if they don’t have family they have old, old friends. They have “lifetime people”. Even if they haven’t talked in years, if they really need to they have someone that knows them. There’s no replicating this if you missed the various dice rolls to get lifetime people. By late 20s/early 30s, it’s done. Everyone you build a relationship already has lifetime people, and those lifetime people will always be more real to them than you. You are just an episodic person for them, relatively speaking. There are little support forums where someone will essentially roleplay as one of your lifetime people, but that’s like eating wax fruit. There’s no fixing it. There’s nothing and no one. Forever.
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Anonymous 113253

I think you are underestimating old people. You could meet your lifetime people in your 40s or 50s and get at least a solid couple decades of friendship out of it.

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>>113228
Honest to God the worst part of loneliness is the bitter tunnel vision we get out of it. The human brain isn't meant for isolation. We get really stuck and stubborn only affirming the strictness of our beliefs and biases. Trust that although your pain is very real for how you've seemingly "missed the bus" at different life stages, that there are options that are out there that will surprise you in the best way. You don't have to believe it, you just have to do more. That's the trouble with it, you tell yourself it's some circumstantial or existential problem out of your control, deadline's already passed, because that's easier than saying "I could try something new to get a different result/test my theory".

There's another bus coming, nona.

Anonymous 113258

>>113257
I really like Hopper's art. For me it evokes peace, rather than loneliness, for some reason.

Anonymous 113262

>>113229
In my experience, no. I live rural and everyone here is 40+ boomers and they live miles away. Growing up, I had not one friend. I commute to the city for work now and have a much easier time making friends.

Anonymous 113296

>>113257
I feel the exact same way as OP. Sure you can claim that it might not be completely hopeless, but that's just not what I'm experiencing. So where should people like us even begin to search for these 'lifetime people' that somehow we missed finding the first time? What are the steps? I swear it's not for a lack of trying. I have tried so many times to get involved with all kinds of groups and individuals both online and off. While it's not so difficult to find an acquaintance who will act friendly once or twice, they couldn't care less about actually getting to know me as a person, and regardless of if they show any actual interest they just end up ghosting me everytime. I just want people I can feel comfortable around. Who skip the small talk nonsense and can enjoy an honest discussion of interests and opinions with. Someone who you can randomly message eachother anytime and discuss your personal lives and thoughts and they are willing to listen. Why is it so impossible to find this situation? It just seems to me like after you're an adult, people stop trying to get to know or care about others. It's as if true friendship is a childhood thing reserved for the lucky few, and I've started to consider that it may possibly be just a fictional concept in general.



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It was over for me since then Anonymous 113282[Reply]

Since the day I learned that male butterflies rape the female ones before they even emerge from the cocoon. Not only rape but pedophila. I thought butterflies were a proof that nature is cute
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Anonymous 113288

>>113285
>"I cannot persuade myself that a beneficent and omnipotent God would have designedly created parasitic wasps with the express intention of their feeding within the living bodies of Caterpillars." - Charles Darwin

lol

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The only good animals are tropical birds. Look at the cool little displays they build!

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Anonymous 113291

>>113290
This made me think.. When a straight woman says she's disgusted with submission like straight sex acts then humans are sadists and of course like to taunt her with it and wanna see her break and submit. Rape = initiation into femininity. Unfortunately humans yes including women don't hide the fact that they see nothing wrong with rape at all as much as they do and subconsciously they seem to adhere to biological gender "roles" if mentally woman is not into submission then she can't have straight sex cause she would see it as terrorizing. Humans love to taunt others with rape and fantasise about putting women in their place that's why I regret posting this fact cause moids mind find it pleasing

Anonymous 113292

>>113291
Sorry I have fear of rape esp it being a part of womanhood. I wouldn't even date a moid cause its like accepting rape



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